Thursday, December 29, 2011

Habits of 2012

The New Year is upon us. Many people will make New Year's Resolutions. In the past, I've always thought of something at the last minute that I could do better. But never had any real driving force behind it, and generally those resolutions never went anywhere. So the last couple years, I've just not bothered (of course it's easy to "not bother" when my husband reminds me every year that years ago he made a resolution to never make a resolution again .... :-\ ) ....
However, I feel like I am progressively covering ground on this journey for self-improvement as a mother, wife, woman, housekeeper, professional, Christian, etc and want to use the upcoming year to be intentional about improving myself and my family. I have decided to plan 12 Habits I want to create and 12 Habits I want to break in 2012. Each habit has been assigned to a month. During each month I will focus primarily on creating and breaking the given habits. The goal (based on the definition of "habit") is to have 12 things become a natural part of my routine that will bless us, and 12 things that were not beneficial to our family that I no longer do.
I made my list tonight. I have a few months that I need to still fill in some habits to break, but I figure as the year goes on, I am sure I will be able to reevaluate my life and fill in the blanks when I get there. I will also try to blog about my progress as I go!

Here is my list.... to keep me motivated and on track!

January
*Create - Get up before the girls to have special time with God.
*Break - Stop snoozing my alarm.

February
*Create - Plan and execute weekly individual time with each girl and my husband.
*Break - Stop saying "in a minute" or "I'm busy"

March
*Create - Finish 1-2 books in a month (Read everyday, individually and with the girls)
*Break -Don't leave the TV on throughout the day.

April
*Create - Go for daily walks with the family
*Break -Don't spend too much time on the phone/comp/facebook

May
*Create - Drink at least 20 oz of water every day
*Break - Don't rely on caffeine to get my thru the day

June
*Create - Plan meals
*Break -Don't let the girls "munch" thru the day

July
*Create - Go to bed no later than midnight
*Break -Don't turn on the TV as I am getting into bed

August
*Create - Blog at least 2-3 times a week
*Break - Don't be impatient with girls and David

September
*Create - Call family members at least a couple times a month
*Break -

October
*Create - Try a new food every week
*Break -

November
*Create - Intentionally be thankful for something every day
*Break - Don't complain

December
*Create - Intentionally take advantage of opportunities to do random acts of kindness often.
*Break -


"Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anyone else expects of you." - Henry Ward Beecher

A Year in a Blink

I closed my eyes for just a second and when I opened them an entire year had passed.
Well, that's how it feels anyway.
Shamefully, I neglected this blog this past year. So much has changed from a year ago, that I always felt I couldn't just "pick up where I left off" ... it needed some segue, so I procrastinated. (What else is new?)
So here I am to try and pick back up, ready for a New Year.

In 2011, we moved to Virginia from North Carolina. We now live with David's grandmother (we help her with the cooking and cleaning and such :)) in the house that David's parents own. We have been so blessed with this living arrangement because we have been unsuccessful with selling or renting our North Carolina house.
In 2011, we joined the church that David went to as a youth - the church that took him to World Changers back in 2000 when we met :) ... It is such a wonderful place to worship God without feeling like it has become a duty, rather it is a delight. I have joined the choir, and ensemble, and help lead the Preschool choir. The girls are enjoying their classes as well. Carissa loves preschool choir, Sunday school, and Mission Friends. And David is a member of the Hand Bell choir. We very much enjoy our young marrieds' Sunday school class, and have made wonderful new friends. Such a blessing!
In 2011, David FINALLY got a job with his degree - making about what we were both making combined in 2010. He enjoys his job and is currently studying to work on getting certifications so he can continue to move up in his field! What an answer to prayers!
In 2011, I developed a love (and discovered a talent) for sewing! I started out with sewing (and selling) cloth diapers! I learned a lot from that experience! Biggest lesson was that if I am going to run a WAHM business, I have to make it fit my family - not make my family fit my business. I began by taking custom orders, only to realize how huge the demand was! I absolutely could not keep up! My poor children and the condition of my home were neglected miserably, and I was so stressed trying to get all the diapers finished in a timely manner for customers. On top of all of that, I hit a few bumps along the way with the functionality of the diapers that I had to fix and ended up replacing diapers. Yow! Can you say OVERWHELMED? I had to take a huge step back. I attempted to get caught up and then create a stock. I had a lot of people anxious for me to "reopen" so I set a date for them, only I wasn't ready in time. I worked round the clock and stressed myself out to get a decent stock made (and still didn't finish what I'd hoped to), and half of what I did finish sold almost immediately. But whenever I pushed myself to make a lot of diapers to meet a deadline, I crashed and burned and the idea of sewing more diapers did not appeal to me. So I took another step back, and have pretty much just set that business aside - temporarily.  I started sewing other things for fun to rekindle my love of creating. I have decided that I do not want to limit myself to just sewing cloth diapers. I want to be able to enjoy making a variety of items - at my own pace. So now I plan to SLOWLY work on building a "boutique" of sorts - and I will open ONLY when I am completely satisfied with my available stock, and have my patterns and kinks worked out. (Check out my sewing blog for the latest on my projects: Sewtastic Fun )

In 2011, I became a Mary Kay Independent Beauty Consultant. While I thoroughly enjoy my sewing businesses, I have to put in a lot of time to make much of a profit right now. Some pieces of the puzzle came together and this opportunity opened up for me. I really enjoy this! It has been slow going for me as of yet (but I truly don't want to burn out on something else on my plate). I am working on getting things organized and ready to make the most of 2012 - and hopefully start having consistent events so that I can start adding to our family's income.

In 2011, we celebrated Kathryn's 1st Birthday and Carissa's 3rd birthday! My how they are growing up SO quickly!!! Both of them are extremely talkative - really ... I don't have any idea where they could have picked that up ;) .... Hmm. They are super sisters. They truly love each other and are always thinking of the other. I will have to post future blogs to highlight their development and personalities because I could write a lot about them! They are my pride and joy for sure! :)

In 2011,  God had taught me one major lesson: I need to stop trying to leave the season of life God has me in, because He has me here for a reason. Instead, I need to step back and see Him at work. I have seen countless accounts of God showing me the reason we are where we are. This was not what we had planned by any means, and it was not the best of circumstances that headed us down this path. But all of 2010, I ignored what I knew in my gut God was telling me to do, and I was miserable. Allowing Him to take the reigns and just trusting that He will provide has proven to be the best thing ever. Our life is 100x better this year than it was last year, and I owe Him all the praise! I know we are still on a journey. But I feel my trust, my faith, and my patience have all grown a lot in the last year! I know God has big things in store for us! And I am anxiously looking forward to all that 2012 has in store for us!! :)

"For I know the plans I have for you," says the Lord. "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope." - Jeremiah 29:11